Communicating Aggressively

It is common that we find people who act in a superior way around us, but there are some people who over do this. They involve in our decisions and make our choices. Any situation that they participate in will have to be a winning situation for them. Such people are all around us and they are known as the aggressive types. But did you know how to figure out the good and bad of this kind of communication? Read on to understand more about communication types and in detail about aggressive communication.

What is communication and how is it classified?

Communication is the ability of an individual to convey across a message to a listener or an audience through verbal or non-verbal forms. Communication is basically classified into various types depending on the method used for communication like oral, written, non-verbal, etc. It can also be classified based on the characteristics exhibited by an individual’s style of communication. On that note, it is differentiated into four types, passive, aggressive, assertive and passive-aggressive.

What is Aggressive type of Communication?

Aggressive communication is a communication style where the individual expresses his or her opinion and views in a bold manner dominating others ideas. They often express their views in such a manner that it violates other’s rights and opinions. These individuals can also be at times verbally or physically abusive.

Sometimes a bit of aggression is also mixed in the behaviour leading to passive-aggressive types of behaviour. It is often experienced by people who have had a history of past emotional abuse and wounds. Such kind of wounds and feels tend to lower a person’s self-esteem thereby making them aggressive in nature.

How is this behavioural nature developed?

Like passive communication, aggressive form of communication can also result due to low self esteem. This form of urge to satisfy one’s need may arise due to the suppressed emotions for a long time or emotional wounds that have been tolerated for long.

Feelings of powerlessness that have been felt for long normally tend to bring out a characteristic to safeguard an individual’s emotions. Such kind of feeling will develop aggressiveness making the individual pursue his interest dominantly.

Self esteem is the individual’s formed opinion of his worth. Individuals who have issues of low self-esteem tend to form a protective cover so as to protect their interest. This arises as they assume that they are not worth being cared by others surrounding them. Thus their own nature of not expressing, explodes and forms a shied thus making them aggressive in nature.

Characteristic features of an aggressive communicator

Aggressive communicators are primarily characterized by a nature to dominate others. They interfere in other’s decisions and views and try to safeguard their interest as the main aim. When in any conflict, these kinds of individuals resort to humiliation as the tool to control the opponent. They frequently blame, criticize or attack people around them. The normally talk in a loud and demanding voice and are also very impulsive.

In any group, an aggressive person tends to interfere frequently and also does not listen attentively. They are also very strong in the body language they exhibit with piercing kind of eye contacts and a posture that is overbearing in nature.

These kinds of individuals often have very low tolerance levels and explode even at the lightest of frustration. These kind of people also point or blame others a lot with very frequent usage of “you” statements.

How does such behaviour affect individuals?

Individuals who are aggressive in their communicational behaviour tend to be scared of other people around them. An insecure feel of their opinions and interests being offended always keeps them cautious and hence causes a fear on others. This fear for a prolonged duration naturally becomes hatred towards co-workers and colleagues.

Aggressive communicators tend to move away from people and keep to themselves. In short, they alienate others from them and tend to alienate themselves from other people. They are also always involved in the blame game and are on constant lookout for error in others. This kind of nature thus creates an immature impression of them on others.

Before you think whether such behaviour is good or bad, understand that no specific pattern of communicational behaviour is perfect. A mix of the patterns with a maturity to use the right kind at the right place is a must. So next time, you find an individual who says, “It’s all your fault” or “I’ll get my way no matter what”, you know whom you are dealing with.

Editorial Team at Geekinterview is a team of HR and Career Advice members led by Chandra Vennapoosa.

Editorial Team – who has written posts on Online Learning.

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